Friday, March 28, 2014

The UNIBROW lover

(Our picture got 13,000+ likes!)

We had some exciting news last week ... one of my favorite pages on Facebook that celebrates international love had shared our picture that I submitted and we got over 13,000 LIKES and 315 shares! Wow...we sure are popular! The page usually focuses on Black & White love, so I was hoping they would showcase our picture to represent us fellow Masala couples.

It was fantastic to see how many people liked our picture, took the time to share it, and commented with loving words. I did not share a picture of our daughter, but many people had commented that the thought our daughter would be gorgeous (and she definitely is!) We had a few other Masala couples comment on it and it was great to interact with them (y'all know me...always searching for other Masala couples like us!) A lot of people loved our wedding outfits too.

One of the things that surprised me was that many people negatively commented on husband-ji's unibrow. Apparently, people had a big problem with that (of all things) Among the comments were, "they look great but he needs to pluck that unibrow", "can you please have him wax his eyebrow", and "he must have a lot of money".

The page is based out of the U.S. - and of course, Americans are absolutely obsessed with hair removal! Sorry...but I LIKE a hairy man. I think a man with body hair is sexy! Of course, I sure found the right man since husband-ji is 90% body hair!

It is so strange to me that a unibrow is seen negatively in American culture. Like, what's wrong with it exactly? WHY should you get it waxed?

I'm not going to say "I don't notice the unibrow", because I do notice it...and I think he happens to look very handsome WITH it...

And by the way, asking my spouse to change something about his physical appearance is just plain WRONG. Who am I to tell him what to do with his body and/or appearance? If he told me to change something about my looks, then I'd have an absolute fit of rage!

I remember when husband-ji and I were living in New York City, when I was working there - and it really is the epicentre of feminine-looking men. Every man that walked by had over-plucked his eyebrows to the point where they looked constantly surprised and quite ridiculous. I saw many men there who also shaved their legs and often wondered if they were cross-dressers because some looked sooooo feminine. Husband-ji and I would often secretly laugh at these guys by looking at each other and doing our secret signal of "surprised eyebrows" look!

One time as we were walking down Fifth Avenue in New York, we passed a man who was holding a sandwich board advertising men's waxing services. He put his hand out and stopped husband-ji, and said, "OH MAN, you've got to do something about THAT caterpillar eyebrow!" Husband-ji laughed in his face - he truly thought it was hilarious. I was more protective of husband-ji and I shouted at the sandwich man, "No he doesn't! He is handsome and don't you dare touch him, you stupid asshole!"

You see, in India...having a unibrow is considered to be a symbol of luck. Husband-ji is the only one in his family who has it and he was brought up to believe that he was special and lucky because possessed this trait. He has never felt like it was something to be ashamed of - he loves it, and so do I...

Plus, as many Bollywood fans know, the beloved actress Kajol has always rocked the unibrow and it certainly has not hindered her beauty or movie roles.
And as for the other comments...

It insults my intelligence and my feminism that I would only marry a man with a unibrow "for money", as if I am some kind of escort that can be bought!!! As many of my readers know, I met husband-ji in college when we were both struggling students, with loans and all. 

All these so-called physical "flaws" that are measured by society are so superficial and skin-deep. People need to stop focusing on these trivial details and instead focus on the things that really matter in finding a mate - love, compatibility, chemistry, values, morality, commitment, respect, kindness, and a mutually supportive partnership. To me, that is more important than some BODY HAIR.

I'm glad husband-ji is confident in his own skin and doesn't think having a unibrow is anything to be ashamed of. And I commend my inlaws for raising him in a household where they instilled confidence him him.

What if we were all raised in a family where a so-called physical "flaw" was considered lucky? Imagine how confident and comfortable we would be with our appearances...!!!


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  1. Alex,

    You and husband-Ji have reached CELEBRITY status, congratulations! I think both of you can give other interracial couples help in many different ways. Thanks for sharing your life with us and giving us the opportunity to interact with you and family.

    You know, I am from the South, Texas to be exact. You are right in commenting on our obsession with hair removal, but we also have a famous, "old" saying, "Don't fix it if it ain't broke!" In other words, husband-ji is just fabulous with his uni brow, don't mess with his hair! He is just fine as he is and that is what makes him unique and loving individual!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Have a great weekend!


    Melissa

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    1. Thanks Melissa, I totally agree...."if it ain't broke, don't fix it" :D Hahahahaha!!!

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  2. It is some kind of problem we usually face.. mostly the skin color.

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    1. It's not a problem at all....unibrows rock!

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  3. Alexandra, Those kinds of eyebrows are seen throughout Asia and the Middle East for women and for men. Some women may choose to pluck or wax their eyebrows but I don't see why men should. Love your hubby's eyebrows - such a handsome dude!!!. I am a women and our family also has them! Viva les unibrows!!!!!!!!!
    Congratulations on your interview.

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    1. Viva les unibrows! Oui Oui!!!!!!!
      I love a thick brow, on men and women!

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  4. I couldn't believe all those stupid comments! I don't even notice your husband's unibrow because he's so damn handsome! you go, girl! :)

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  5. I loveeeee your attitude!! I was one of the people who 'liked' it and saw some of the comments and I was so shocked!!! People are unbelievable.

    Unibrows rock!!

    Lots of love

    Lauren x

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    1. People are soooooooo weird!!!!! It is was LOL-hilarious! I am totally starting a hairy man revolution!!!

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  6. I know what you mean, my boyfriend and I were openly laughed at the other day, because apparently my boyfriend being the shorter of the two of us is reason enough for me to not date him. Its like saying you would reject your perfect soulmate because their nose was crooked. People are too obsessed with stereotypes and outward appearances these days.

    Also with you on the hairless mennthing. I would die if my boyfriend waxed his chest hair. Would absolutely die. Thankfully he never would, but still! Men are supposed to be the hairy sex! And they look freaking fabulous with hair! If I wanted to date a hairless person I would look to girls :/ guys shaving and waxing is too strange for me.

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    1. *sigh* it is always something regarding physical appearance! I totally agree, I find hairless men seriously feminine....

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  7. i love your writing style! had super fun reading this post :) go girl!

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  8. Don't mean it as an insult, but does he kind of look like the Indian Louis CK?

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    1. No way, he is definitely a Frank Zappa doppelganger!
      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frank_Zappa

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  9. Hmm..first, I have to say you are very brave for putting up your photos because internet is often full of jerks commenting. I cannot understand how people can be that rude. They would not say the same thing to the person they just met right?

    My solution for all these trolls - into spam & ignore them.

    I did not know unibrow was considered lucky, People tell me I am a pseudo Indian ha ha

    I personally like not too hairy men, but not no hair men either but that's my preference. I don't think that means I should have problem with who somebody else digs right?

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    1. Yes, I know, people always go for the appearances of things and appearances are so dependent on perceptions and in the eye of the beholder. I think, if it doesn't bother me, why should others care so much? People are strange...especially about body hair! It was interesting because usually women get more critiques about our appearances.

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  10. thats an interesting post!!! im with you and hairy men! i even find men that wax just too feminine for my likes! and you both look fantastic in that picture!!!
    when i was to get married in india, in the beauty parlour i was almost forced into waxing my arms!!! i have a friend who told me her indian husband even likes her to wax her arms! i was concerned my hairy arms would be considered repulsive in india but resisted the temptation of arm waxing! i guess different hair in different areas of the body is treated differently depending on the country and culture you're at!!!

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    1. Thanks Aida!
      Yes, I have noticed that many women wax their arms in India which I find so odd. I do not notice forearm hair or think it is bad. Before my marriage also, my MIL requested that I wax my arms, I thought it was silly because I hardly have any hair there and it is light color so not noticeable. I thought maybe it was for the mehndi to go on better. But it is really too much work for me!

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  11. I am a girl and I have an unibrow (got it from my dad). It is bushy and people would tell me to wax it or I will get made fun of. Once, I went on a walk, and a group of girls made fun of my unibrow...but I love my unibrow and will keep it.

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  12. I tried to be strong and independent and let my unibrow live... But I am a young woman with a brow thicker than any man I have ever seen and the pressure from others is just too much, I'm going to get rid of it to make it stop.

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